Friday, December 27, 2019

Parenting... sin fronteras

The first post.. the post that I have been overthinking for weeks because I am feeling some serious pressure to kick off things with a bang here. But ya know what? I need to just start, so lower your expectations for me and just hear me out.

When I had to rebrand and rethink what I wanted for my Instagram account, I felt so drawn to this idea of creating a community where we can help each other raise children.. sin fronteras (please read “sin fronteras” in the voice of a novela narrator). My initial idea of fronteras was obvious; physical borders. The Mexican American border has played a huge role in our family, after years of dealing with immigration on our journey to gaining my husband’s American citizenship, and will always play a huge role as a symbol of the vast distant between us and my husband’s family in Oaxaca.

My husband Abraham and I in 2012, during our first year of marriage. Photo was taken in front of a mural around 16th Street and Thomas in Phoenix, AZ. PC: Sonya Mosher

Recently, my mind has been expanded to the many other fronteras, boundaries and barreras that plague some of as parents:

  • Language barriers - raising multilingual children and the current climate surrounding bilingualism, Spanish especially. I could go on for days about the benefits of bilingualism and research backing it, BUT, for your sake I will have to do a separate post for that. 
  • Unrealistic expectations - I often feel disappointed after not reaching insane expectations I set for myself as a parent, and also expect my children to meet certain expectations that even I can’t meet, like when I expect them to handle disappointment or change without any outburst of emotion.. yeah right, can I even do that? Nope.
  • Comfort - oh, this is a big one! How often do I choose to stay comfortable instead of crossing that line into discomfort, where growth is found? When it comes to being bilingual it has taken me a decade to feel comfortable with the discomfort that involves learning and practicing a second language, but every awkward mistake or mispronunciation has shaped me and motivated me to keep going.
  • Loss - I hope you are not dealing with this barrera in your life, but for those of us who have been inducted into this club, you know, grief and loss can seem all consuming at times. By sharing what it’s like for me to face the pain of losing my parents, I hope that I can break down this barrier that threatens to keep me from the life I want, and also help others realize that grief in all of its different forms, is N-O-R-M-A-L (say it with me now, nooooormal).

I am sure the list could go on and on and on, but I want to respect your time, dear reader, in the hopes that you will feel inclined to come back, and when you do, join me on this journey of parenting... sin fronteras (did you do the narrator’s voice? It’s 100% necessary).

What are some of the fronteras that are keeping you from living your best life? It can be as a parent, as a spouse, as a human, whatever! Let me know in the comments below!


  1. Glad to have found you on IG. Congrats on hitting publish, a tough Frontera to cross! I look forward to reading more.

  2. Did I realize the blog itself was another frontera? No I did not lol it’s like blog inception ha ha ha Im so glad you are joining this community and am looking forward to learning together!

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