Friday, January 10, 2020

More than Enough

I just finished my first grown up book of 2020 and it was the perfect way to kick off the decade! I have been curious about minimalism for years, but wasn’t sure how to apply the principles in our life with three kids. The cover of the book, More than Enough, really hooked me with the line “practical minimalism”. That’s what I needed! To be practical about scaling back on how much we consume, without feeling guilted into total deprivation. Also, I really struggle to read nonfiction, but this book was so easy to read because Miranda’s voice shines through the pages and it feels like you are just on a lunch date with a friend who is sharing what works for them. Here are some of the big takeaways I had after reading:

1. Experiences > Things: My mindset has been so backwards for so long! In my mind experiences weren’t worth their money because they lasted a short period of time, while things give us years of use. This would be true if the things weren’t just sitting in a closet untouched and unused, which is the case with too many purchases. This year I want to do a mindset flip and see the true value of family experiences, because really they last forever in the form of healthy relationships and treasured memories. We are kicking off the year with a trip to the Utah ice castles next week and I am so excited to put this mindset change into practice.

2. New isn’t the only option: Our eyes and ears are daily bombarded with the message that we NEED certain products in order to be happy, and it has to be brand new. In reality, there are other options, we can borrow that product from a neighbor, find it at the thrift store or from a local yard sale group online, or just make do without it. The best advice she gives I think it to not make purchases impulsively. If you really want something, wait a few days to think about whether you really need it, or if you could borrow it from someone if it’s something that won’t get daily use. This practice has helped me avoid MANY unneeded purchases. When I get that Target app notification about a Hearth and Hand sale I can’t help but add all the things to my cart. If I let the cart sit there for even just 24 hours I will talk myself out of every purchase because the desire to buy was 100% emotional.

3. No guilt: She had a whole chapter where she discusses an instance where she bought something, even though her family was doing a year without spending on non-consumables. I love that her attitude wasn’t one of regret or shame. It was so encouraging to read about her experience and how she was able to dig deep and decide that the purchase was necessary and she would continue with the no spend goal after making that purchase. When we set goals for ourselves we often give up completely after one slip up, but it doesn’t have to be that way! We are setting the rules, we get to decide what happens next! And, most importantly, we don’t need to feel shame about our choices. We are the only ones who can prevent our progression, so if the road doesn’t look perfect it’s okay, keep going!

I would love to hear your thoughts about minimalism! In the past I have resented the small rentals we have lived in since our marriage, but recently I have embraced our little two bedroom townhome and have found so much joy here. I can clean the whole thing pretty quickly, the space fits us perfectly right now, location is amazing, great neighbors. I really don’t have much room for complaint and we are blessed beyond measure.

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